Easier to change the body than the self image.

About 7 months ago we moved to Austin.  Through the summer with all the swimming and hiking, the reduction of stress and new grounds to explore, found me dropping quite a bit of weight.  I was really proud and bought new jeans for my birthday in October.  I had surprisingly gone from a size 24-26 to a size 18-20.  As exciting as loosing the weight has been, how much better I feel, there are still some things that we all laugh at.  My recent purchase of my new favorite pair of skinny jeans has brought about a lot of laughter, mostly not on my part.  The family laughs when I put on my new jeans and make the statement that I really think they are stretching in the wash.  I figured that if they had some lycra in the jean fabric they would and could stretch.  Until I found a pair of jeans that I had kept as one of my downsizing goals.  They are not stretchy at all and I need a belt.

So I decided that I needed new underthings.  I don’t want to spend good money on them because I am still fluxing so I go to Wal-mart.  I pick up a multi-pack of underwear.  I look at the packages and find one that is sized for a 22-24.  The waist sizes seem about right.  Yea!!  One thing down.  I am getting ready for summer exercise so I decide to get some new bras too.  I look at the sports bras and the sizes on them.  XL looks really small, 2X too big so I opt for the XL.

I am totally proud of myself, you should be too, I hate clothes shopping but I have both items and I am heading to the check-out. Paid for, in the sack and headed home.  I head upstairs to try on the new purchases.

Oh brother!!!  I slide into the new pair of panties.  The waist is loose, but that was the least of my worries!!  The crotch is hanging down about the middle of my knees!!  The legs fit no where and if I move too much that elastic will not hold this up on my waist.  Apparently size 22-24 is not the correct size.  My daughter rounds the corner as I stand there trying to figure out what went wrong.  She burst out laughing.  “Mom?  Did you find a pair of my panties?”  NO!  But I do give her the other three pair.  Went back today and bought a package 2 sizes smaller…perfect fit.

I put on the one of the new sports bras, thinking there is no way this is going to fit.  I am bigger than this.  Wow!  Amazing it fits perfectly.  I look down at the one two sizes larger that I took off, though extremely comfortable there was really no reason to wear it.

Why is it that when you loose weight, in your mind you are still the bigger size.  I am one size from my final goal.  It will soon be time to set new goals and work toward them.  I just hope at successfully reaching the new goals I don’t still think I am at my largest size.  Come on Summer and swimming weather!!!


me two pant sizes larger than now


Not near my largest, but         where I started

my thoughts

Asked what she was going to do when he passed from this world into the next, “I will probably show up on your door step and curl into a ball on your floor.”  Though that wasn’t exactly what happened, in some ways it was.  A small part of her soul lay some where safe curled into the fetal position.  She was tough through the final days, she was strong on the outside where everyone saw.  But deep inside something died.  A strong metal shield encased her heart to stop her from feeling the complete and utter pain that was growing there.

She didn’t even realize what the date was when she sent out the text to the one that had asked the question of what she was going to do.  She just knew that in her heart she needed to tell her dear friend that she loved her.  She sent text to several people that she felt needed to know how much they were loved and cared for.  As the day turned into night, she became more and more agitated.  No reason to be but it was there under her skin, creeping and crawling like prickly heat rash on a hot summer day.  It wasn’t that she was mad or angry, she just could not put her finger on exactly what she was feeling.  Sitting at the computer just after midnight, she realized that it was his birthday.  For the first time since he left this world, tears welled up in her eyes.

She cried herself to sleep and woke with tears still lingering there.  Her throat hurt so bad from wanting to scream out but it was as if the scream would never be heard.  For the first time in nearly three years all the anguish, the pain, the fear, the hurt and confusion hit with a vengeance.  Sobs rocked her entire body, uncontrollable and unstoppable.  It was as if something finally broke into a million pieces.  The hurt, the anger, the depression all hit in one massive wave.

This is not where she wanted to be, not what she wanted to be doing, and not how she had envisioned any of it.  She had quit writing, quit taking pics, and really had quit being alive.  As she had gone out and taken pictures some time back, she realized that it was him that had been her biggest fan.  He wanted to see every picture she took, good or bad. He wanted to read every word, thought, hope, fear and ambition.  He didn’t always like the picture, and wasn’t afraid to say so.  He didn’t always agree to her words written on paper but then again he wasn’t afraid to tell her.  But even if he didn’t like or agree, he encouraged and guided her to be her best.  She wanted to share her photos with someone but no one seemed to care or give feed back.  She shared these feelings only to be told that if she wasn’t doing something with them that made them exciting they were not worthy of being looked at.

Done!  Over!  Time to change the direction.  Time to look deep into all this emotion and try to find a new and worthy path.  Time to take back what is and what will be.

God said be still and listen.  I had thought that I was being still and listening, then we moved to Austin and I learned to be really still and listen.  To be still and heal.  To look around and see myself.  I used to care what I wrote, how I wrote it and to find a way to not step on anyone.  I don’t care at this point.  I am not writing to please anyone but me.